How do you parent, and what made you decide to parent that way?
Parenting isn’t a simple math equation, like 2 + 2. Instead, parenting has a lot of variables and no matter what formula you use, its going to look different in every family. It is one of reasons, I believe why God didn’t give a “how to parent” book for us to follow.
How we choose to parent, should be left up to the families themselves. Barna discovered something different,
Our national research has shown that most parents are quite concerned about others’ perception of them. In fact, many determine how they will parent based on how they think their actions will be evaluated by their friends and extended family. 1
Why are adult parents are parenting based on others perception of what works and doesn’t work? With so many different variables in each family, I find that to be strange. What works for one family doesn’t mean its going to work for yours. If your mom or friend has a great family, doing what they do won’t make your family great! If parenting was easy, then why are thousands of parenting books released every year?
Determining what you want your children to be, is a huge variable in the equation of parenting.
I look at success as my children knowing and following God when they get older.
Successful spiritual parenting isn’t based on “do and don’t’s”, but rather on practicing godliness in one’s life. If the adults act in compassion, kindness, patience, and love then then their children will learn to have those godly behaviors in their life.
Don’t let others perception change your family, instead be unique and lead your family.
Barna, George (2010-09-01). Revolutionary Parenting: Raising Your Kids to Become Spiritual Champions (Kindle Locations 839-841). Tyndale House Publishers. Kindle Edition. ↩