I am not the kind of guy who “wings it.” When I was younger, I winged it a lot when it came to school work or social activities because I felt I could pull it off. Which never worked out well. One time I had to do a devotion for our Christian Club in high school, and I had nothing prepared. The only thing I had in my hand was a ballpoint ink pen, so I went on making a spiritual devotion on a ballpoint ink pen. It was a disaster. It did not help that I was the president of the club at the time. Embarrassing.
As I matured, for the most part, I gave up on winging it and now I can get a little over prepared when it comes to things in my life. A couple of days ago, I was replacing a windshield wiper, which I prepared myself by watching videos on YouTube.
When my second son was born, I realized it was time to get serious about parenting. So for the past five years, I have been reading and studying about how to be a great parent. Here are a couple of observations.
First, all parenting looks different. It is based solely on your family situations and since every family is different, there is not one way to parent your child.
The other I discovered, as a Christian I looked into the Bible and realized there isn’t much the Bible says about parenting.
Why would God leave out the guidelines for how to instruct our children to grow up in the Lord? Should I have family meetings? Should I send my children to Sunday School, Children’s Church, both or neither?
I love what Barna say’s about the subject.
There is more guidance provided about the nature of spiritual maturity in adults because God knows that parents, in effect, create children in their own image—just as He did with us. We pass on our values and habits, often without realizing the transfer is taking place. 1
Spiritual Parenting is about us, the adults, passing down our faith, values, and habits to our children. I do believe children need to get their own grasp of faith on their own, but that is something that needs to happen as they themselves mature into adulthood. But with our students and children, we need to be the imagine bearer of Christ to them. We need to be the example of peace, patience, self-control, goodness, etc…
As we grow in our own faith, we help grow faith in our children. If we neglect our faith, then we start neglecting faith in our children. Spiritual parenting is about spiritual training in our own life.
Feel free to let me know about your own thoughts in the comment section below.
Barna, George (2010-09-01). Revolutionary Parenting: Raising Your Kids to Become Spiritual Champions (Kindle Locations 1784-1788). Tyndale House Publishers. Kindle Edition. ↩