Reacting and Responding ParentingPosted: May 14, 2014
What is the difference between being Reacting and Responding?
Reacting is purely an emotional response that causes us to be on the defensive end of the situation. Someone says something bad, immediate anger comes forward and I react. There is no deep thought involved, just primitive actions.
Responding involves more of a cognitive perspective. It involves patience, evaluation, reasoning, and strategizing. The deeper thinking builds integrity and puts you in a better position than on the defense.
Reacting and Responding is an important part of parenting because if we react to our children’s decision, conversations, etc…, we prevent meaningful conversations and mindful decisions.
Reactions to our children like, “Because I said so” or “No means No” does no good for your child.
Instead respond with, “Let’s look at God’s Word” or “I said, no because (A) (B) and (C).”
Proverbs 15:1 say’s “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
I encourage you to dwell on that proverb and think about it next time an argument is brewing up in your child. Be patient and when you are ready to give a calm, gentle response it will be beneficial for your child today and the years ahead.