Treating Your Children Differently

Wouldn’t it be great if we could get a glimpse of our children’s future? Like if you knew some of your child’s negative qualities. Man, wouldn’t that make parenting a little bit easier? You would have at least some areas to work on throughout the years. Because let’s be honest parenting is like walking through a fog in a dense corn field. You have a good idea what direction you want to go, but you don’t know until it’s all over how far you were off the mark.

Not only can you not predict the future, but living with your children every day, makes it harder to see negative qualities. I know concerned, informed, and proactive parents, that cannot see the negative qualities of their children. Even I, a person that works with kids, studies parenting books and adolescent development, do not see the negative qualities of my children.

As a parent, I know my job is to make sure I lead my kids into adulthood as a fully functional member of society. As a Christian parent, I know my job is to lead them to know God’s will for their life and to put them in situations where they can use their spiritual gifts on a regular basis.

The first step in this is to know and recognize that even though my children share my DNA, they are not carbon copies of me. Sure we have similar quirks and mannerisms. They are not me. Each of my kids deserves a shot to be their own individual. I need to recognize that truth because will make parenting a more enjoyable process.

I think if we can recognize our children’s differences, which gives us a good blueprint to start with in raising out children to adulthood.

After that, parenting is trial and error, and I hope and pray every day that my kids grow up as devoted followers of Christ and quality adults.


Hobbies Are A Great Time To Teach Virtue

As a Christian parent, there are some important virtues that I want my boys to have before they graduate from high school.  I want my boys to have faith, goodness, knowledge (general and spiritual), self-control, perseverance, godliness, affection for the church, and love (2 Peter 1:5-7).

As a Christian parent, it is my duty to make sure my children have the best opportunities to know those virtues and apply it to their life.  Attending church, being around mature Christians, will help my children know these virtues, but I cannot rely on the church or the members of the church to raise my children right.  I am their father, and it is part of my identity to raise them down the right path.

A few weeks back I wrote on the subject of starting a hobby with your child and how, right now, is the best time to start.  Starting a hobby with your child isn’t just about finding something fun to do together, but it can also be a great opportunity to have an activity where virtues can be taught.

Maybe your hobby is a sport.  Great! That would a great time to teach perseverance, and self-control.

Maybe it’s some craft or art.  Great! That would be a great time to teach knowledge.

Whatever the hobby, you can find some time for teaching moments about a godly virtue.  Can you still have fun? Yes, but make sure to take the opportunities to teach as well.  Just don’t simply make the outing a time-waster, but instead make it a character builder.

What are some virtues that you would like your child to learn before they graduate high school?